Relationship Counselling
Online Couple Therapy
Conflict is an inherent part of any relationship, but sometimes it can feel too much.
Each couple co-creates a unique dynamic which underpins their relationship. This is influenced by each partner’s understanding of what a relationship is, as well as individual experiences, expectations and needs, including the need for space. Over time, a couple’s dynamic may change, or one partner may change, and tensions may arise (or they may have always been present on some level, but not discussed).
Any underlying issues may be further intensified by the realities of life. These include: work, financial pressures, fertility issues, children, mental illness, physical illness and wider family dynamics (in-laws) – to name a few. Cultural and religious differences may also have an impact.
Therapy for couples presents an opportunity to understand the impact of these challenges on your relationship.
Couples often start therapy when tensions are high. There may be feelings of jealousy, betrayal, resentment or anger, but the aim is not to point the finger. It is for you and your partner to express yourself within a contained environment, so your feelings can be thought about, understood, and processed.
As part of exploring the presenting and underlying issues, I will highlight what you are creating together, what your specific dynamic is, and why you feel the way you do.
This may lead into thinking about past histories, since the way we behave in intimate relationships is linked to earlier experiences.
The past impacts the present in ways we often do not recognise. Patterns repeat themselves and, once these patterns become conscious, they can then shift. It is this shift which brings relief.
Victoria Walsh
When is the right time to start couple therapy?
There is no right time to start therapy. I work with couples of all ages and stages, across a wide variety of presenting issues.
You may come because:
You are facing a specific crisis, such as an affair, re-location, fertility issues, redundancy or bereavement.
You are struggling with a particular stage, such as moving in together, starting a family, becoming parents, children leaving home, or retirement.
You have sexual issues, such as low libido or loss of desire, or other health issues, including low mood/depression, or even terminal illness.
You simply have the general feeling of unhappiness and that you have lost your way. You feel distant from each other.
You may be considering separation or divorce or have already separated from each other and would like support in navigating this, especially if you have children.
